Preparing Your Mind
If you rated the impact of isolation in your life at high levels, begin to take action. A fantastic first step is to begin changing the way you think. Changing your mind can be quite difficult, depending on how ingrained the isolation has become, but even the most negative thought patterns can change.
Self-talk is the conversations you have with yourself during the day. If you say, “Good job” to yourself, that is self-talk. If you say, “You stink,” that is self-talk, too. Positive, optimistic self-talk makes you feel better, and negative, pessimistic self-talk makes you feel worse.
To prepare your mind you have to change your self-talk. Here’s how:
- Track your thoughts. Begin by paying attention to the things you say to yourself. What do you say about staying at home? What do you say about your psoriasis? Knowing your thoughts gives you the information to change them.
- Judge your thoughts. Being judgmental of others is a risky plan, but judging your own thoughts is useful as long as you retain objectivity. Look at how your thoughts influence your feelings and behaviors. Thoughts that focus on the hazards and threatening aspects of leaving the home will keep you stuck. Likewise, thoughts that emphasize an unrealistic safety of being at home do the same. Challenge yourself to consider other points-of-view. Perceptions that support isolation support depression and anxiety. Thoughts that illustrate the good that comes from leaving your comfort zone combat mental illness. Decide what thoughts help you and what thoughts hurt you.
- Change your thoughts. Once you make your decision between the helpful and hurtful thoughts, actively work to put more thoughts that are positive in your mind. The process is simple. You can set alarms on your phone or create visual reminders in the house to encourage positive thinking. For example, put a sign on the refrigerator that says, “Staying inside makes you feel worse.” With repetition, you will be more likely to change the momentum of your thinking to be more positive.
Preparing Your Body
Since isolation changes your behaviors, you have to work on your body as well as your mind. Changing your thinking is valuable but cannot compare to the power of changing your behaviors.
You cannot think your way out of isolation. You must act. Here’s how:
- If you have been changing your thinking than you have begun the planning stage. Think about the goals you have for life after isolation. What would you like to accomplish? Who would you like to be around? Where would you like to go? Setting these goals will motivate you and give you direction for your energies. A person without goals is like a boat without a rudder: directionless. Believe that you can achieve your goals and that psoriasis will not stand in your way.
- Preparation for your body includes working to find and practice relaxation techniques that calm your body. Ending isolation or avoiding deeper levels of isolation produces anxiety as your mind works to convince you that the outside world is scary and dangerous. Progressive muscle relaxation (PMR) is a wonderful option since it directly targets the physical tension common in times of stress. PMR works by tensing and relaxing sections of your body to build relief. Calming your body will aid your mind in reducing anxiety.
- Go and do. Taking the first step out the door is literally the most important step. Isolation tells you that no good can come from leaving. Each step reminds you of how pleasant the world can be. Along the way, you will note the opportunities for positive experiences. These will begin to offset the barriers you might have. Do not focus too much on what you do at the beginning. The process of leaving is more important than what you do. Plan to get out for just a few minutes initially. During subsequent trips, extend the time, distance and activity to expand your comfort zone. Add phone calls to friends as a way to increase your social contact.
Isolation is a real problem for people with psoriasis. Start by assessing your level of isolation to identify how badly you require change. Working to change your mind and your body will set the stage for success. No man is an island. End the isolation today.